Considering a baby is one of the big decision-making moments in life. If you are thinking of having a baby in the near future, it can be helpful to discuss these ten important questions with your partner.
Last Updated: 22 October 2020
Babies bring a new, beautiful world into our lives, of course! On the other side of the coin, there can happen alarming realizations after having a baby if you did not think before what it is like to have a baby.
Here are 10 questions for you and your partner to think about while considering a baby:1. Is the relationship between you two solid?
Minor relationship issues can be common between couples and wouldn’t necessarily interfere in raising a family. However, if there are major rifts, the resulting stress can add to the stress of new parenthood when your baby will arrive. Try to make things straight in your relationship before considering pregnancy.2. Can your financial position accommodate an extra family member?
Yes, a baby is tiny and his/her needs are going to be little as well; but be wary, baby care is no less expensive! From diapers to baby gears, the arrival of a baby can dig your pockets deep. Make a realistic estimate of how much of an increase in expenditure you will have to manage after the baby. Maybe you or your spouse will have to take up an additional job or you may have to close your existing loan before pregnancy. Planning your finance ahead can make a whole lot of parenthood easier and happier.3. What is the status of your medical insurance?
Medical insurances can cover the expenditure towards pregnancy and delivery. It is a good idea to check the status of your health insurance, if it covers childbirth and if it is accepted in the hospital you’ll have your baby.4. How do you plan to look after the baby?
Once your baby is here, he/she will require exclusive attention from a baby care provider. Most often, it is the mother who stays back to look after the baby. Sometimes, it can be the dad or a baby sitter – decide who and how it is going to be done to prevent dilemmas and confusions later.5. Are you aware of maternity and paternity leave policies of your organization?
Employees are in general provided with paid leaves from the company on the event of a new baby in the family. The number of days of leave and other terms may vary from one workplace to another. Check with your organization about the new-parent privileges you are entitled to. It can help you decide on matters such as managing finance and hiring a baby sitter.6. How aware are you about conception and pregnancy?
You know how to have sex, no doubt! But how aware are you about getting pregnant and pregnancy? Are you aware of the prenatal vitamins you will have to start taking? How well do you know your fertility window? If you are using birth control, do you know how long it is going to take for your body to come to the active fertile state? Are you aware of home pregnancy test kit?
Speak to a health care specialist or read from a trusted source about the basics and essentials of pregnancy before considering a baby. Just being aware can help you stay confident during the conception process and throughout pregnancy.7. Do you have any health-related complications?
It is important to have a pre-pregnancy health check done before considering a baby. Your doctor can predict any possible health complications you or your partner may have. If necessary, taking medications for a health issue can serve you and your baby better than to have a problem diagnosed after pregnancy and being unable to take a medication.8. What are the age-related factors while considering a baby?
Fertility: Even though fertility differs from woman to woman, the reproductive ability in general decreases with age. The chance of conception at 20 is certainly higher than at 40.
Family history: If you have a genetic history of late conception or reproductive issues, it is a better idea to plan for pregnancy in the 20s than in the 30s.
Financial security: Childrearing comes along with its share of financial responsibilities. If you are in your early 20s and may need a few years to financially stabilize or save up for the child, you must spend some planning in it.
Emotional maturity: Raising a family demands a certain level of patience and emotional maturity. As these are characteristics which come with age and experience, it should be given a thought too.9. Are you mentally prepared for the difficulties and inconveniences a baby can bring along?
You may be aware of sleepless nights and fatigue that having a baby can result in. Add breastfeeding problems (if you plan to breastfeed), having to be in maternity wear, less socialization, less date nights, lesser intimacy with your partner than before etc. to the list. Begin to become mentally prepared to face such everyday difficulties. It may take 6 months to 2 years to create a daily routine which will not be unpredictably disturbed by your baby.10. Are you considering having a second baby?
Having a baby could have brought with it a plethora of experiences and expertise in you, as a parent. If you are considering a baby for the subsequent time, you must redo thinking about all the points from 1 to 9. And most importantly, in the process of planning for the second baby, you must take the best care of your first child as well.